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Other's That Are Impacted

The other's impacted by this Abuse that are not seen nor taken into consideration, are the child or children. Those witnessing &/or Victims of the abuse are also neglected with the help they need. Studies show that children learn by their environment & will adapt those lessons to their adulthood. They tend to repeat the process. Either believing that is how you treat your significant other or, that it's acceptable to be treated that way. Children also learn how to face challenges, how to handle & how to heal from their environment. Children & their trauma are often overlooked, causing problems for them & others later in life. This is THE problem for future Abuse. They are also Beautifully Abused Victims & need help. Your Contribution will pay for those services.

Don't They Have Shelters, Protection Orders & The National Hotline To Help Them?

I have been there! The whole system is broken & quite frankly has never actually helped. The Shelters, Protection Orders & a Hotline? That's cute, let me educate you on the reality of that so-called "help" & then you decide if the old ways are still better to fund/support or if it's time to fund/support a new way.

The Shelters. So the Victim that has been through enough, is made to leave where they live, leave everything behind to let the Abuser destroy it & go live in a house full of strangers. Even DomesticShelters.org admitted to conducting a survey on 844 survivors done by DomesticShelters.org that the Victims "Will leave and come back 6.3 times on average before leaving for good". Let's round it to 6, even though other Shelter programs have admitted to 7. 6 times!? 6 times is the average amount of going back to the Shelter before the Victim actually leaves the Abuser. Survey on only 844 Survivors that successfully left, when they have 40 locations & have served over 45k in Ohio alone. ODVN considers "Success" is the number of people that got in their program, using that as an argument for needing to be funded over $31M. Their success is being a con artist. Everywhere you check, NONE of them give an ACTUAL success rate with their Programs, of abused victims not returning back to their abuser. Just the average amount of times that they returned. They have no problem releasing data of how many people they served. This isn't McDonald's. They consider that a success!? Do you?

Protection Orders are a joke! Most Police tell a Victim when they call "Well it's documented. You can come down to fill out a Statement. Call us back if it escalates" & nothing more. The Abuser is violating the Order & they won't arrest him until it escalates. Escalates to what? Being attacked or killed? The Victim is in too much fear to leave their house & the Police won't come to them. The Victim got the Protection Order for their safety. It's the Police's job to comply & execute that Court Order if the Abuser has violated it in any way. Abusers like to push to see what they can get away with, adding on the fact that the Victim angered the Abuser by leaving & getting that PO. Why risk the Victim's safety by not responding?

The National Hotline? Firstly, they need enough freedom from their Abuser to even make that call. Secondly, putting the victim into high anxiety of trying to hide their phone call & hide that they did call from the Abuser. Is just dumb! The Victim is already in a high anxiety state which is very unhealthy for the brain, if their frontal Cortex hasn't shutdown to let the middle section for Survival Mode kick in yet, it will just to make that call.  "We're here to help" Help with what? They advise you to go to the Shelter. "We care & are here any time you need to talk" That would be nice if they just needed to vent. All words & NO action, does that seem helpful?

Why 3 months of bills paid? Abuse Victims have been through so much damage, they need time to heal. Not being tossed back into society expecting to just move on. That's Society telling them that they are not important & what they went through isn't important. They already believe that they're worthless by their Abuser, no one else should add to that. Giving them 3 months gives us the time to remove any brainwashing done to them. It gives them time to have a taste of a better way to live. It helps them to get use to their new schedule of appointments for them & their children. It gives the children time with their parent to help them heal. It gives them time to plan for their education or career that they want. Also, knowing that they have stable support removes the feeling of needing to return to their Abuser.

That's why I started this. NO MORE! No more false claims of caring about the Victims. No more false claims of being there to help the Victims. No more words, instead we will show it with action!